Let’s begin with the obvious: We’re all flawed.
In some form or fashion, there are things we all need to improve and work on.
In starting “Dad Will Do It,” I was under no illusion that I’d present myself as the perfect father.
I’m not. My flaws are many.
But I am here to tell a story. Many stories. Especially, the ones that never get told.
Often, the narrative of Black Fatherhood is painted with the same broad brush: We’re negligent, absent, deadbeats or “trifling.”
That’s not my story.
And I know it’s not the story of thousands of other African-American fathers — unfairly beset with stereotypes — who I see with their children in the barbershop, at the movies, the playground and sporting events.
That’s what this blog is: A mechanism for telling those stories, and a way to inspire, uplift and empower Black Fathers who are very present in their children’s lives, doing their thing, making it work.
I know what it’s like to feel alone — to feel like there’s nobody who understands or gets what it means to be a Black Dad.
Here, no Black Father will have to feel like they’re the only one who speaks their language or navigates their world.
Now, let’s talk about what this blog isn’t.
It isn’t a forum for trashing and bashing women — there’s enough of that.
It isn’t a space to complain about your child support payments or upcoming court appearance.
It is designed to uplift, empower and encourage Black Fathers who are in their children’s lives, and inspire and spur those who aren’t.
As this blog grows, you’ll find a range of stories — some reported by writers, others original pieces from fathers themselves — that will explore the different facets of Black Fatherhood: The good and the bad, the sublime and the challenging.
Here, you’ll find our stories told in a truthful, meaningful way.